Are you the type of person to agree with a friend or relative when they are being a gossip and speaking on someone else’s personal business all for the sake of being a “good” friend or relative? Or maybe you are the one person everyone calls to serve the tea of the day because they know you will listen and entertain their gossip. Perhaps you only entertain their actions because you don’t want to risk the chance of a severed relationship with the person. I’m pretty sure we’ve all been in one of these situations.
Well friends I’m here to fill you with some REAL HOT TEA……
Being this person is going against God’s word. Did you know that back in biblical days gossip wasn’t used to describe what someone was doing but was used to describe who that person was. It was a label. They were classified with the murderers and the haters of God in the book of Romans.
Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice themROMANS 1:32
Don’t sit there and think because you aren’t the one actually spilling the tea or, simply put, because you aren’t the one telling the business it makes you innocent. I know you have heard the term “Guilty by Association”. Can two walk together without agreeing to meet? (Amos 3:3). However, there are ways to get out of this cycle of agreement:
Pray And Repent
Take words of repentance with you and return to the Lord. Say to him, “Forgive all our iniquity and accept what is good, so that we may repay you with praise from our lips.” ~ Hosea 14:2
Ask God to forgive you for allowing these types of conversations into your life. Ask Him to continue to reveal all your iniquities surrounding the issue of gossip. Also, let him know you have realized what kind of people you are entertaining and ask for the guidance needed to know how to remove yourself from these situations.
Speak The Truth With Love
But speaking the truth in love, let us grow in every way into Him who is the head—Christ, ~ Ephesians 4:15
When gossip comes your way you have the option to stop it at the front door. Be bold enough to tell the person who sets the stage for gossip that you either know or don’t know about the situation and you don’t want to discuss the situation without the party involved being present. Advise them that God knows whatever is going on and you will be praying for them. Then switch the subject to reflect that you are only interested in what is going on currently with the person you are speaking with.
Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent ~ Proverbs 17:28
Another option is to just not respond at all. Keep quiet and ignore what is being said. This works best in group settings when there are a few people who are speaking on someone who isn’t present. Don’t even respond. If someone notices you are not engaging in the conversation and asks your opinion just politely let them know you have heard everything said and you don’t believe you all should be conversing about the person behind their back.
Granted with doing these things you risk the chance of losing the relationship you have with the person gossiping. That’s okay though because Proverbs 20:19 tells us that whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler. Trust and believe if they will gossip with you then they will gossip about you. Plus, if they were truly meant to be in your life then they wouldn’t take offense to what you have said. Maybe they will even follow your lead and stop their gossiping ways.
I hope this information has enlightened you. Let me know in the comments below if you have any other strategies you use to beat associating with gossip.