Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful, it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-7
What the world needs now is love sweet love. ‘Tis the season, right? What we need to be asking is does the world really know what love is? The Bible calls us to love as Christ does but do you know what that means? Let me help you. The Bible defines love in this way:
But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love1 JOHN 4:8
Do you really know what that means tho? Society has bamboozled us all by different movies, television shows, books, and magazines representing love as a feeling when in all actuality love is a proper noun. We’ve been fooled into thinking the racing heart, jitters in the stomach, and sweaty palms are a sign that we love someone when it’s actually God telling us to guard our hearts. Today I want to adjust your mindset to reflect on how God is love. I am going to explain how you can love in a way that is after God’s own heart and that will change your life and the lives of others around you. The goal is to love in the way Christ does.
1. FORGIVE AS CHILDREN
I’ve always felt I do a pretty good job when it comes to forgiving others after an offense. I actually wrote a previous post about one of my recent encounters with forgiveness. However, it wasn’t until recently while having a conversation with my son, Nehemiah, where I got an even deeper revelation on the concept.
We were looking at old videos and pictures of him when he was younger. At one point of our reminiscent time together he said that he remembered the time in the picture and how mean I was back then. It was crazy because the night before I had prayed about how I wasn’t ready to have a child when I did and how my only wish was that my past actions wouldn’t emotionally scar my child like the mistakes of my parents, their parents, etc., had done to me. After my initial shock I explained to him about where I was mentally at the time and told him that hopefully he would be able to forgive me for my mistakes and not hold them in his heart. He then says, “It’s okay mom, I already forgave you when you was being mean.”
I instantly felt the Holy Spirit come over me reminding me of the book of Matthew where it says,
Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the Kingdom of HeavenMATTHEW 18:4-5
I then began to think of how innocent and God-like the love of a child really is. No matter if you break promises, treat them unfairly, or unjust, if they have one ounce of love for you then they forgive your wrongs and are focused on what happens in the present. That is exactly how God wants His grown children (us adults) to be.
To forgive doesn’t necessarily mean you have to put up with what has happened. It means that you are releasing the mental stronghold the situation has on your life. You no no longer feel they owe you anything like an apology or a conversation or that you don’t owe them anything like a back hand or an evil tongue lashing.
Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, as God of Christ forgave you.EPHESIANS 4:32
2. TREAT OTHERS HOW YOU WANT TO BE TREATED
It is very vital to treat others how you would like to be treated because you never know who a person is or what they represent. If you live with someone, whether it be a spouse or a parent, you always want them to respect you and your belongings so in return you show them and their belongings respect. This should be the same for those outside of your household due to not knowing anyone’s specific circumstance or situation. There is a YouTuber named Dhar Mann who makes amazing videos displaying the importance of this concept we all need to portray.
Don’t neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by doing this some have welcomed angels as guests without knowing it.HEBREWS 13:2
This scripture reminds me of that old show called Undercover Boss. For those who have never heard of it, the show was about CEOs going under disguise in their own companies to see how they truly are run. I loved watching it because it showed the rewards and consequences of people’s genuine actions. You just never know how much of a blessing someone can be to your life. If you are being a blessing in return then you are only adding on your abundance of blessings from the Most High God.
3. BE SELFLESS AND SACRIFICE
For God so loved the world that he gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.JOHN 3:16
The entire bible represents the true essence of love. We are only able to love because He first loved us. It was God who sent His son Jesus Christ who performed the ultimate selfless act to lay down His life for the people He loved although those same people did not love Him back. If that isn’t the supreme form of selflessness and sacrifice then I don’t know what is. People often complain about having to compromise with their spouse, gripe about having to share anything they feel they are obligated to, or fuss about others when they aren’t up to the standard of what society deems as right. They don’t know that they are operating in the total opposite lifestyle God has called us to be in.
To love is to be selfless and sacrifice. Share them chips you have hiding from the kids in the pantry and that chocolate hidden in your secret spot. Give up playing video games a day or two and spend time with your wife/girlfriend. Choose a night out the week where there is no electronics for the whole family and just have game night. Loving is giving up something only to gain something even more valuable.
I hate to say this but the world is in shambles because people are living and loving from a place that is not of God. Folks are holding grudges for long periods of time and maneuvering through life based on past trauma which results in hurting others because hurt people hurt people. Others are being selective on how they are treating different individuals whether it be based on skin color, economic class, etc. Some are also being selfish and unwilling to sacrifice for the betterment of their neighbors but are running around yelling they are love and light. One nation under God though???
Before you go I want you to ponder on this; If God is love then how can someone love and commit to you if they don’t accept and commit to God? I hope this information helps you think twice when you hear the word love and helps you further understand the true meaning of love and how it is supposed to be represented. I also pray that it makes you think twice about the fact of someone really loving you or if they are being manipulative. I can only hope you take a beat and analyze whether you have God’s heart towards someone before telling them that you love them.